Do you believe what you see on social media? Do you envy other people's perfect lives? While I am well aware that social media presents a very skewed impression of people's lives, I have been pretty naive as to the extent that people outright lie. For what? To get more likes? To feel more loved? Is this really love? Is it sustainable when it is based on an avatar who represents the person they would like to be but aren't?
I read a fascinating article (link below) that references studies about the relationship between the amount of time spent on social media and rates of depression. Check out these stats on honesty in social media:
"In 2016, when the market research firm Custard surveyed 2,000 people in the UK, it found that only 18% of them said their profile accurately represented them, 31% said the face they presented on Facebook boiled down to “pretty much my life but without the boring bits”, and 14% said Facebook made them look “much more” socially active than they were. Men, it seemed, were more likely than women to knowingly depart from the truth: 43% admitted to fabricating some aspect of their online selves.
Six years ago, the market research company OnePoll found that a third of women it surveyed admitted to “dishonesty” on social media. Almost one in four admitted to lying or exaggerating about key aspects of their life online between one and three times a month, and almost one in 10 said they lied more than once a week. Nearly 30% of women lied about doing something when they were really home alone, and 20% were not truthful about their holiday activities or their jobs."
If we base our self worth on external validation or on a modified version of our true self, it is not true or sustainable self worth. It will fall apart the moment the 'likes' die down, you have a moment alone with the real you or get tired from keeping up the facade. Find your self worth from within. Live with integrity. Find your tribe who love you for who you are. Being you is more than enough.
Michelle Borner, a mom on 23 missions, blogs about her Deep Thoughts on a wide range of topics from parenting to conscious living to lessons from brain cancer.
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