"Being positive has become a new form of moral correctness." ~Susan David
What if instead of needing to "be strong" or "stay positive", we could just let our feelings come and go as they are, showing some vulnerability and imperfection to others without fear of judgment?
What if instead of feeling the need to advise or console or scold our friends, family and children when they are upset, we instead just listened or hugged and held the space for them to release those emotions?
What if instead of labeling emotions as good or bad, we could be authentic with whatever comes up, recognising that feeling emotions, even the less enjoyable ones, means that we are alive?
As Susan David says in this video, "Only dead people ever get unwanted or inconvenienced by their feelings".
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Since you were here
I held you near
I felt the fear
Yet through the tears
I told you it’s okay to let go; it’s time to let go.
Since I told you I would be okay
Said I’d find my way
Find laughter and play
Yet throughout each day
I learn how hard it is to let go; much easier to say.
To think of what you endured
That you couldn’t be cured
Dreams not heard
Yet there are no words
To describe how graceful and brave you were.
Of memories with so many laughs
Thousands of photographs
Traveled so many paths
Yet because of the deep love we had
The grief is just as deep in this aftermath.
Forever and a day
Since I first met your heart
Since we’ve been worlds apart
I try to restart
Yet while it’s been so hard
You live in my soul; you are never far.
I love you so, so much Mom. With love on your Angelversary, Michelly
Michelle Borner, a mom on 23 missions, blogs about her Deep Thoughts on a wide range of topics from parenting to conscious living to lessons from brain cancer.
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